Title: Resistance
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Blog Entry: "Resistance is futile, you will be assimilated" or so the quote goes. But something has set me to thinking, what does resistance do? Does it add spice to a D/s or M/s relationship? If your sub, or slave or bottom resists, does it make the scene better? Getting them to submit by overcoming their resistance. Going that little further and getting a degree of satisfaction in the moment that you have bent another to your will. Does it make you feel stronger or more "masterful" or "domly" more on the top in your relationships? With all consent and within a consensual relationship, of course. Does it make you wonder or think that there are problems within your dynamic? Is resistance the BDSM equivalent of "dirty pillow talk"? Is talking back a prospect that gives a Master or Mistress or Top a stress ulcer or does it ramp things up for both parties? Or is it a case of brattyness or SAMness or disrespect that will cause the one being spoken to to pack up their kitbag and bring out the saddle soap? As a sub, slave or bottom, if you have the ability to shut yourself down and hold off a requested response until added stimulation is given, is this being "bad" or just making the scene hotter for your Dom, Master, Mistress or Top? Does resisting occasionally make you feel "happier" within the relationship? Is the thought process one of, "This person has taken control of me and the situation and is therefore some one worthy of my submission?" If all you have to do is give a hard look at the toy bag and your plaything is on their back, or whatever, is there ultimately any challenge? Submission is one thing but having to occasionally go that little further.... Is there any satisfaction in a sub who turns over with no effort from you? As a sub, slave or bottom, is there satisfaction in just going with the request, every time? If you are one of those who does, "mouth back" or holds in your response, or makes the Dom, Master, Mistress, Top work for a response, why do you do it and what do you get out of it? I get the feeling that if it was a battle every time there was a session things would soon become problematic but every now and then it could be a interesting addition to a relationship. Every BDSM relationship has a different take on what is right for them, as it should be, but one wonders about the differences, and by talking about, recognising and acknowledging the differences, we learn what is possible and what we want and need and just as importantly what we don't want or need. Sbon
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